Dare To Connect
By Katie Bencze
It’s no secret that this is a busy, multi-tasking, technology driven world. Modern amenities can bring great advantages. But sometimes those advantages come with consequences. Why do we text when we could pick up the phone and hear a voice? Why do we email when we could meet for coffee? Why do we “LOL” when we could really laugh out loud? Simple: because it’s easier. It’s easy to get busy. It’s easy to get distracted. It’s easy to convince ourselves that we don’t have time to connect on a personal level. Maybe we’ll do it later? But what effect does “later” have on a relationship; all relationships? Relationships can be hard, and we like easy.
Yes, relationships can be emotional and even taxing. But they are the most fulfilling aspects of our lives. And like a garden, when well tended, they blossom. The truth is, relationships don’t just happen, they require intentionality, commitment and communication. But don’t be overwhelmed, because they
do not need to take an abundance of time. What if you could strengthen a relationship in a minute a day? There are many ways to connect with someone- a spouse, a child, a friend. It’s not always about what you do, it’s that you do it. Maybe you don’t know where to begin? I didn’t. But alas, that is another benefit of modern technology. There are many ideas out there. One of my favorites is a blog called www.meaninginaminute. com. According to its founder, Krista, all you need is one minute a day to create a deeper relationship with your spouse, children, parents and friends. The thing I like about her blog is that she takes the guesswork out of it. You get an email every day for 7-14 days (depending on the challenge) with an idea on how to create a memory with a loved one in just a minute or so. Krista says, “We are going to push back against the sometimes disconnected culture in which we live, and create meaningful interactions each day. We must make the relationships we foster within our families a priority- it’s the legacy we live with and the most important thing we leave behind.”
So I took one of Krista’s challenges. Three weeks ago her email instructed me to have a sixty-second funny face contest with my family. I don’t remember what I cooked for dinner that day, or who I sent emails to, what was on TV, or even who I talked to on the phone, but I still remember that funny face contest…and so do my kids.